Having lived here for many years, I so agree with the following from an expat in the Philippines.
To be able to prosper here and to live with an inner peace one must accept the fact that they are a guest in a country that has survived hundreds of years before they came ashore. It is not up to these people to change their culture and habits to please you it is up to you to change to please your host.
I see Arrogant westerners dressed inappropriately for conducting business, alcohol on their breath, hung over, screaming at bank tellers and managers because the system is not set up to their liking. The thought immediately comes to my “sinful” mind, who in the hell does this idiotic think he is? If he wants things done his way he needs to pack his bags and go home. You catch a lot more flies with honey rather than vinegar.
Being Obnoxious will not solve your problem.
This type of behavior will not change a thing. It will only make life difficult for yourself and the woman your love. When a man is acting up in public his wife is shamed and embarrassed. Society holds her accountable for bringing this rude and apparently ignorant person into the Philippines. In all situations, stay calm and try to work your way through the problem. The minute you raise your voice and act superior to your host, you lose, and from that point forward nothing will go your way.
There is a system here that westerners do not understand and many have tunnel vision that prevents them from seeing the system. This system may seem chaotic and backward to us but it works for our host nation. They do not need or seek our advice on how to run or improve their system. They are capable of managing their own affairs.
Most aging Americans come here to find a young sexy lady so as they can partake of the physical fruits that a desperate young girl can and will provide to an aging man for the sake of having rice on the table for her family and friends. This being case why not set back, enjoy life and go with the flow. You either learn to accept or you will be broken and sent home, where you will no longer have access to the fruits provided here.
Those who survive and are happy here have learned to adapt to this culture. Be happy, Make love not war.